There is an addictive factor to being good at something and feeling successful. I love sports because there is always the potential to improve. There is an obvious physical limitation for everyone but I bet 95% of athletes will never each their full potential. For some, the problem is an injury, an all too familiar hurdle I can relate to; but for many, the problem is mental toughness and the ability to tweak and push oneself past your perceived limits.
I recently went through the debate of whether or not to hire a personal trainer for boxing. Throughout college and high school, my personal training sessions were paid for by either my parents or my university and I was not-so-gently reminded of how much individual training sessions cost when I looked back into the endeavor earlier this month. Boxing is something I dabbled in randomly with a trainer when I lived in London and I loved it. When I got back to the U.S. I bought a pair of boxing gloves and never touched them again because I didn’t really know that much about the sport.
In the past, I always justified personal training by rationalizing that I was training for a national championship and that my education was being paid for by the fact that I was good at what I did. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same for boxing and my motivations now are primarily to feel the thrill again of getting my ass kicked and enjoying the high that comes with getting better at something.
So when I stumble across this post on New York Times‘ health and fitness blog, Well, earlier today, I instantly related to the discussion. Author Gina Kolata was approached about being a coach and she questioned the motivations behind coaching and seeking coaching:
How does someone qualify to be a coach? And why do so many athletes want a coach in the first place?
To me, being good at something and having fun with it, means constantly getting better. It is easy to work hard when you have an audience at the gym or the track but what’s difficult, is pushing when you are by yourself and even the best athletes struggle with this problem. In her post, Kolata notes:
It certainly is possible to train without a coach. The principles of training are well known, and widely available online, in podcasts and in the many books that have been written on training for various sports. Some who have used self-training programs say they are remarkably effective.
And I agree with her entirely. The internet provides an endless stream of resources for athletes and fitness junkies but I think it takes one step further to be really good and to push yourself to get better. How hard are you really willing to push yourself when no one else is looking? For me, a personal coach is worth the financial investment because they push you one step further and can provide the advice and technique adjustments to reach small milestones on the way to the bigger goal. I feel satisfied weekly when I leave my boxing sessions knowing that I have improved a little bit and while there is no bigger goal in mind for me here, it feels good to just be working hard and constantly getting better.
But there is a reason why more athletes do not seek out coaching:
Yet some athletes avoid coaching.
One problem, some say, is finding a coach whose personal style suits them.
And this is a problem I can relate to. Different trainers and sport-specific coaches have different expectations and levels of training themselves and when their skills and motivations aren’t up to par with yours, it can be extremely frustrating. Some trainers and coaches aren’t prepared to push you and they give you too much time to rest, or are afraid to tweak your style or push you to be better. What do you think I am paying you for?! I can have a chill workout on my own! I need a coach who isn’t afraid to drive me til I fall over or hit me across the face when I forget to keep my gloves up.
This level of intensity is obviously not for everyone, but it’s the type of pain I thrive on. Getting better at something is fun and rewarding for me because even though you suffer along the way, the outcome is 100% worth it.
The author ends by saying:
As for me, I am staying with my coach.
And so will I… I love the saying, “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” For me, a coach is that teacher that helps me get better and stay uncomfortable week after week… Because there is nothing better than getting better.
To learn more, read the full article from New York Times, “I’m Keeping My Coach, but You May Not Need One,’‘ and the relating post from its Well Blog, “Do You Need a Fitness Coach?”.